Anticipatory Grief Support
Anticipatory grief, a reaction preceding an impending loss.
Grief does not wait for death to happen; it occurs both in anticipation of and following a loss. Extended illness, disability, severe accidental injury, a terminal diagnosis can produce what is known as anticipatory grief and mourning. People find themselves reacting and continually adapting not only to an expected loss, but to all their losses.
This may begin as soon as we become aware that death may occur. When a life-threatening illness is diagnosed or a terminal prognosis is given, we understand that there is no cure, and we realize that death is inevitable.
We are coping not only with our own feelings of grief and loss, but also with physical and mental fatigue. We may feel overwhelmed with all the emotions and responsibilities.
In many ways anticipatory mourning is more difficult than the grief we experience following the death.
This period offers a time of preparation, an opportunity to begin to plan our lives without our pets.
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Bereavement refers specifically to the process of recovering from the death of a pet or loved one. Grief is a reaction to any form of loss. Both encompass a range of feelings from deep sadness to anger. The process of adapting to a significant loss can vary dramatically from one person to another, depending on his or her background, beliefs, relationship to the loss, along with other factors.
Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time. Some people recover from grief quicker and resume normal activities, though they continue to feel moments of sadness. Others may feel better after about a year and sometimes people continue to grieve for years without seeming to improve or find relief even temporarily. Grief can be complicated by other conditions, most notably is depression.
There is no “right” way to grieve, each person is an individual and at Ontario Pet Loss we recognized that each person’s journey from the present to one of comforting memory is not easy journey and one that does not need to be traveled alone.
One on one counselling in a private, confidential setting. Focusing on your individual needs in hourly sessions.
Our monthly meetings – a place where people can share their stories, losses and feelings of grief, in a caring, non-judgmental and supportive environment.
We do encourage people to share their stories and pet photos, but do not force those who are not yet able to share. Some people benefit just by listening to others talk and realize that they are not alone. No two circumstances are the same, no two animals are the same, but people find solace in knowing that there are others who can truly understand the pain.
We offer sympathy – not pity – we are able to help by acknowledging that we don’t “get over” the loss in a week or two. If the loss is deep enough, some will spend the rest of their lives trying to figure out how to live with it. That doesn’t mean they will never be joyful and happy again. It means that they live with the knowing that their lives will never be the same again.
We provide genuine compassion, since we are all pet lovers and have shared the same experiences.
Non-pet owners, who haven't experienced the love and the connection of a human-animal bond, do not understand and can not appreciate the feelings that arise from the loss of a pet. They are unable to share the same emotions or have difficulty in understanding why we are unable to “get over” our loss, as one would with a human loss.
By participating, it demonstrates a valuable experience, a gift to help others and the knowing that we are all human and share the same compassion for our pets.
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What is Reiki
Reiki (pronounced Ray-Key) is an ancient, gentle energy healing therapy used to help an individual or animal to enhance their well-being. Reiki energy is completely safe for both humans and animals.
During a session, the practitioner will lay their hands on, or slightly above, transferring a healing energy - “life force energy”. Reiki energy is directed to where the individual or animal has a need for healing.
Not a cure by itself, Reiki is used to enhance well-being and in conjunction with regular treatments from a medical doctor or veterinarian.
Reiki for Humans
Reiki promotes well-being, balances energy levels and is an excellent treatment for dealing with grief associated with loss.
When we are in the state of grief we experience deep emotions ranging from shock, anger, sadness and confusion. Reiki can help with this process since it heals on all levels: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
How long grief takes is different for everyone. What is important is allowing your emotions to move through you. Grief moves through in waves and Reiki can help you ride the waves.
Reiki for Animals
Animals are receptive to positive energy.
Reiki is used to aid in healing, general well-being or dealing with end of life. Animals tend to position themselves to direct energy flow to where they need it the most. Reiki enhances energy levels in animals and is beneficial when recovering from upheaval, abuse or neglect and to assist building with people.
Frequently asked questions
Q. Do I need to stop seeing a regular doctor, psychologist or veterinarian in order to receive a Reiki treatment?
A. No. Reiki works in conjunction with regular medical, psychological or veterinarian treatment. If one has a medical condition, it is recommended that one see a licensed health care professional in addition to receiving Reiki treatments. Reiki energy works in harmony with all other forms of healing, including drugs, surgery, psychological care or any other method of alternative care and will improve the results.
Q. How do we know that Reiki healing is appropriate for Christians to do?
A. In I Corinthians 14:1 Paul tell us to eagerly desire spiritual gifts. In I Corinthians 12: 28 Paul says that healing is one of the gifts. Paul also says that each of the gifts is best expressed with love.
Q. What is the best way for a Christian to practice Reiki?
A.. Reiki is a wonderful way for Christians to make use of God's power.
Q. Is Reiki a religion?
A. Religions are involved with issues such as heaven and hell, sin and salvation and have a doctrine or code that one must believe in in order to be a part of the religion. Reiki does not deal with these things. Reiki is a simple healing technique. It does not require one give up ones religion or changes ones religious beliefs in any way to practice it. Most Christians who practice Reiki state that Reiki brings them closer to God because it is a method of healing.
Q. Where does Reiki energy come from?
A. Reiki energy is a subtle energy. It is different than electricity or chemical energy or other kinds of physical energy. Reiki energy comes from the Higher Power, which exists on a higher dimension than the physical world we are familiar with. Reiki energy appears to come down from above and enters the top of the practitioners head after which if flows through the body and out the hands. It appears to flow this way because of our perspective. However, the true source of Reiki energy is within ourselves.
Q. How is a Reiki treatment given?
A. In a standard treatment Reiki energy flows from the practitioners hands into the client or animal. The client is usually laying on a massage table but treatments can also be given while the client is seated or even standing. For animals they usually pick a place that is comfortable to them. The client remains fully clothed. The practitioner places hands on or near the clients body in a series of hand positions from head to toe. For humans a session can last between 45 and 90 minutes. For animals between 15 and 45 minutes, most animals will let practitioner know when they have had enough.
Q. Are there any side effects from a Reiki treatment?
A. Most of the time a person or animal will feel relaxed and uplifted by a Reiki treatment. However, sometimes a person will have what is called a healing crisis. As a person’s vibration goes up, toxins that have been stored in the body will be released into the blood stream to be filtered by the liver and kidneys and removed from the system. When this happens, sometimes a person can get a headache or stomach ache or feel weak. If this happens, it is a good idea to drink more water, eat lighter meals and get more rest. The body is cleansing as part of the healing process so this is a good sign.
Q. What does a Reiki treatment feel like?
A. What one experiences during a Reiki treatment varies somewhat from person to person or animal. However, feelings of deep relaxation are usually felt by all. In addition, many feel a wonderful glowing radiance that flows through and surrounds them. As the Reiki energy encourages one to let go of all tension, anxiety, fear or other negative feelings a state of peace and well-being is experienced. Some drift off to sleep or report floating outside their bodies or have visions and other mystical experiences. At the end of the treatment, one feels refreshed with a more positive, balanced outlook.
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